Honesty?

There’s something I’ve never understood about relationships. How are you supposed to be honest with someone? That ideal is a lie, it can’t be true, at least for me. If I wait until someone loves me to tell them my dark secrets, my ugly parts, the ones you can’t just see, then I would be lying to them all the way until that point. But if I were to come up straight to each new person with all of this, how would they be supposed to be willing to embark on an emotional voyage? Would you honestly? If you just get to know me today and we happened to kiss, and afterwards I casually let you know that sometimes I like to make people suffer by exploiting their weaknesses, would you really be willing to bet on relying on me for anything? What’s more, if I were to add “I’m letting you know this just so you can ponder before diving in”, isn’t it obvious to think “this guy is going way too serious way too soon”. And that last part is the one that makes me realize we don’t want others to be honest. So then why in the world are we struggling so much to make others be honest to us.

There’s just one thing that comes to mind, we were tricked into thinking some people are well and other are faulty. And that knowing people’s truth is the only way to tell which ones are faulty. Luckily at least the stupidity in that train of thought is self explanatory.